Wednesday, September 28, 2022

What's Your Superpower? Rosh Hashanah Morning 5783

 What’s Your Superpower?

Rosh Hashanah Morning 5783

September 26/27, 2022

Rabbi Alan Cook

Sinai Temple, Champaign, Illinois

 

“An individual ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of unknown wonder.  Fabulous forces are encountered there, and a decisive victory is won.  The individual emerges from the mysterious adventure with the power to bestow great gifts and blessings upon other individuals.”[1]  This description, a slight paraphrase of the “hero’s journey” motif laid out by Joseph Campbell in his seminal work on mythology, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, could be used to describe a number of well-known characters who have entered our consciousness through books or other media.  But if we take time to parse Campbell’s matrix, we find that it particularly applies to one of the earliest heroes of Judaism, a figure who occupies our Torah portion today.  Abraham leaves behind the home he has always known.  He encounters an unseen, benevolent force which he calls God, and overcomes obstacles and challenges to become one who is widely known and respected within his lifetime.  Abraham in this framework, meets the textbook definition of a hero.

 

To be sure, much as Abraham has stood the test of time as a pivotal character in our tradition, his demeanor also challenges us at times.  The infamous story of the Akedah, the Binding of Isaac, which is our Torah reading for today, shows a disturbing side of Abraham that we would never set out to emulate.  Some argue that it is such flaws that make Abraham more relatable and more worthy of adulation.  But this morning, I’d like to focus on the strength of another character from the Akedah story, one who does not appear by name in the narrative, but who is nonetheless impacted by it and shows heroism in the face of adversity.  I’m referring, of course, to Sarah.

 

Sarah, wife of Abraham and mother of Isaac, is thrust into this story even though the p’shat- the plain reading of the text—makes no mention of her.  But how could she not be impacted by the troubling events unfolding in Genesis chapter 22, as the child whom she was able to bear only after great struggle is now being prepared for sacrifice?  In fact, the Midrash, noting that the very next parsha in the ordinary weekly lectionary cycle, Chayei Sarah, begins with the mention of Sarah’s death, imagines that she passes away from shock and grief when she learns the true intent behind Abraham and Isaac’s early morning journey.[2]  Yet prior to her passing, Sarah—like so many biblical women, some known to us and others anonymous—exemplifies a heroic stance.  It was famously said of Ginger Rogers that she did everything her dance partner Fred Astaire did, except “backwards and in high heels.”[3]  The biblical Sarah may have eschewed the formal attire, but she and her compatriots certainly had important accomplishments similar to those of their male counterparts, though they have often been less heralded.

 

A few weeks ago, without her even knowing that I was working on this sermon, our six-year-old daughter Eden asked me if I believed in superheroes.  I responded that while I didn’t think that there were really people in this world who could fly or turn invisible or things like that, I believed that there are people who always work hard to do good things, who fight for truth and fairness.  That answer satisfied her.  But the more I thought about it, the more I considered that many of the non-physical attributes ascribed to superheroes in comic books and movies—beyond radioactive spider bites or having been born on another planet or having been injected with super serum—the qualities that make the heroes pursue evildoers and save the day, these are the same qualities that our tradition defines as menschlikeit.  It’s generally understood to be a gender-neutral term.  Menschlikeit is the art of being a fine, upstanding person even when others around you are not behaving in such a fashion.  Rabbi Hillel taught, “B’makom she-ein anashim, hishtadeil l’hiyot ish—in a place in which no one is acting like a decent human being, one must nevertheless strive to be human.”[4]  Each of us has the ability to act like a mensch.  In other words, that’s our superpower!

 

Among other qualities, the mensch-y heroines of the Tanakh persevere, they are strong, and they stand by their convictions.  These biblical women display character traits that we would each do well to try to emulate, regardless of our personal gender identifications.

 

When Jerry Siegel and Joe Shuster created Superman, their knowledge of Jewish culture and history informed them to some degree.  Superman debuted in 1938, meaning that the mythos of the character was being shaped in the shadow of World War II and the Shoah.  The world, and Jews in particular, needed a hero they could look up to, one who had the strength and the moral fortitude to subdue any enemy who might prove to be a threat to justice and freedom.  That Superman himself was presented as an outsider, a foreigner undoubtedly resonated with those who had been displaced from their European homes and found themselves rebuilding and seeking new fortunes in America.

 

But there’s another very Jewish feature that distinguishes Superman from other comic book heroes who would later arise.  Figures such as Batman or Spiderman go through the bulk of their lives in their human form—Bruce Wayne or Peter Parker or whomever.  Their masked and caped personae are their secret identities, alter-egos they adopt in the pursuit of upholding justice.  For Superman, however, the core of his identity is that he is a being from another world who possesses the ability to fly, extraordinary strength, x-ray vision, and so-forth.  His human guise of Clark Kent is the costume he wears in order to exist in contemporary society.  

 

This echoes the experience of Jewish immigrants, many of whom sought to fit in to American society by doing their best to drop or disguise accents, shift modes of dress, and perhaps even change names as a means of being more like their neighbors.  But it also mirrors the narrative of a number of Biblical women, who courageously lived relatively quiet existences while the men in their lives received the bulk of the attention.  In a cultural milieu in which females rarely were given agency, the Biblical women who nevertheless acted to protect their own interests, to provide for their families, or even to defend their entire nation, are deserving of our respect.

 

The daughters of Zelophechad-- Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah, advocated for a fairer manner of determining inheritance rights, rather than tying property ownership only to males.  Miriam watched over the baby Moses as he floated in the Nile, ensuring that Pharaoh’s daughter would see the infant and rescue him.  Yael trapped the Canaanite general Sisera in her tent and murdered him so that he would no longer be a threat to the Israelites.  Shiphra and Pua’ah continued to deliver male Israelite babies and ensure that they survived, contravening the Pharaoh’s decree.  Hannah, about whom we read in [today’s/ yesterday’s] Haftarah, veered from accepted modes of worship to offer her own silent prayer.  And Sarah?  Sarah laughed.

 

         In mentioning Sarah’s laughter, I do not mean to denigrate or trivialize Sarah’s role in her narrative.  Each of these women shows courage and resilience when a situation seems not to be in their favor.  Each of them, particularly Sarah, acts contrary to the norms that we have been led to understand regarding biblical society, and despite the odds seemingly being against them, they prevail.  Sarah’s laughter underscores her perseverance; her laughter upon hearing the Divine oracle promise a late-in-life pregnancy is but one instance of her persisting in a narrative in which she not always treated fairly.  Twice, Abraham forces her to pretend that she is his sister rather than his wife, placing her in situations that imperil her dignity.  She endures a rivalry with Hagar for Abraham’s affection and attention because she fears she will not be able to provide her husband with an heir.  But rather than retreat into the passivity that we are told was the typical stance for women of that era, Sarah finds ways to defy these expectations and be an active player in her narrative.  For having the perseverance to move beyond the accepted norms, we can recognize Sarah and these other Biblical women as heroes.

 

         In a recent essay, author Dara Horn posed the question, “What impossibilities might be open to us right at this moment, if we were to stop limiting our imaginations? What might happen if we had the courage to approach people different from us and discover how they did itwhether those people were our neighbors, people across the world, or our own ancestors? What might it be possible to hope for? What would we even want to want?”  These are the questions Sarah and her fellow Biblical women dare to ask.

 

         Horn illustrates her point with the story of Bontsha Shveig, Bontsha the Silent, by the Yiddish author I.L. Peretz.  Bontsha, a poor man, dies and is brought before the heavenly court to be judged.  He is found to have been so suffering and so humble that the divine court declines to pass judgment upon him, declaring, “It is not for us to determine your portion of paradise. Take what you want!”  And Bontsha, having been granted the opportunity to request anything for his eternal reward, simply requests a roll with fresh butter each morning.  As Horn notes, he has been left literally with crumbs.  

 

         The story is often held up as a sweet example of humility.  But Horn argues that this is an inappropriate way to read the text.  She writes, “Self-abnegation is not a virtue. We are entitled to want more than crumbs; the ability to desire more is the most humane act of respect for ourselves and others.”[5]

 

         When we, like Sarah, persevere and fight for what we deserve, when we are insistent upon being treated with dignity and justice, we show our heroic qualities.

 

         The women of the Bible are also strong.  They may not possess the supernatural strength of one born on a distant planet, or bitten by a radioactive insect, or trained in martial arts, but they show themselves to be mighty in heart, mind, and character.

 

         Sarah enters into the experiment of monotheism with her husband, Abraham, leaving behind all she has known to forge this new path.  We never hear about her personal experience of the Lech Lecha moment, the urge to go forth and seek new adventures.  What did she leave behind?  What fortitude did she possess which enabled her to endure this upheaval?

 

         And what strength did it take for Sarah to stand at Abraham’s side through various trials and tests, to parent Isaac in her old age, to watch her husband and child wake early one morning and go off on the journey to what would come to be known as the Akedah?  The Torah is largely silent on Sarah’s emotional reaction to many of these moments, but we may imagine that, when faced with challenges and adversity, Sarah laughed just as she had at that other important juncture in her life.  We can picture Sarah refusing to fold under these stresses and pressures, but standing firm and resolute and facing the moments with good humor and determination.

 

And other women in our storied past show admirable strength as well.  Judith, whose eponymous book is found in the Apocrypha, single-handedly slew the Assyrian general Holofernes.  Deborah guided the Israelite community as a judge, providing spiritual and political leadership in the days when there was no king over Israel and every person did as they pleased.[6]  Moses’ wife, Tzipporah, performs an emergency circumcision when Moses is endangered in the wilderness.[7]  While one need not act in as dramatic a manner as the women whom I have lifted up, their stories of personal fortitude come to reinforce the great things one can accomplish if one maintains the discipline of inner and outer strength.

 

         How do we show our strength in our time?  If we are strong and firmly rooted, we have the ability to be a means of support for others who may be in need.  When we serve our community—upholding the fallen, caring for the sick, sustaining those who are downtrodden—we work in partnership with God, we show our strength, and we exhibit our heroic nature.

 

Sarah and her biblical sisters display a quality that is essential to heroism and to menschlikeit—they maintain their convictions even in the face of adversity.  Sarah, for instance, insists that Abraham’s estate, and the legacy of ideas and ideals contained therein, will pass on through Isaac.  She does everything in her power—sometimes at the expense of others in the household such as Hagar and Ishmael—to achieve this end.  While we might disagree at times with her tactics, we can appreciate that her motives are informed by her love for her family, and her conviction that the new monotheistic enterprise that Abraham has discovered should not disappear after only one generation.

 

Ruth is another figure who stands by the courage of her convictions. When her sister-in-law Orpah returns home to pursue a future that feels more secure and certain for her, Ruth determines that her destiny lies within Judaism and with her mother-in-law.  Her proclamation, “Entreat me not to leave you, to turn back and not follow you. For wherever you go, I will go; wherever you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God,”[8] is recognized as the first outward expression of conversion to Judaism.  She is steadfast in her faith that God will provide, that a future among the Israelite community holds the greatest promise for her.

 

And Esther, who has the ability to be quite comfortable in the Persian palace, living incognito, calls upon the strength of her convictions in order to stand up for her people against Haman’s wicked plot.  As Mordecai reminds her, “Perhaps you were put here for a moment such as this.”[9]

 

In our own day, we are called to act in a menschlikeit manner.  As I noted on Erev Rosh Hashanah, the pandemic lifestyle of the past few years has perhaps caused some of us to curtail our interactions with others a bit.  But as we each begin to find our own comfort in group gatherings, we begin to recognize the holiness of community and our sacred obligations toward one another.  As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. opined, “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is ‘What are you doing for others?’”[10]  We show our heroic side when we learn to behave as mensches and act in consonance with our convictions. 

 

The moments of inspiration granted to us by these Biblical heroines are numerous.  Doubtless, we could find contemporary examples of Jewish women who are also forging important pathways for truth and justice and human rights.  Our own gender identifications, and the gender of those who blaze the important trails on our behalf, ultimately is not entirely relevant for this particular discussion.  The significant message is that one can perform heroic acts simply be striving to realize one’s greatest potential.  By being courageous, strong and resolute, and true to one’s convictions, one can be noticed and celebrated as a mensch.

 

As we enter this New Year 5783, may we each find a way to work in partnership with God and with one another to use our strengths for good, to strive for the betterment of the world in which we live.  May we follow the examples laid before us by Sarah and her biblical sisters.  May we each stand tall and proudly proclaim, “I’m a mensch!  What’s your superpower?”



[1] Paraphrased from Campbell, Joseph. The Hero With a Thousand Faces (New York: Pantheon Books, 1949) 

[2] See, for instance, Midrash Pirke D’Rabbi Eliezer, Chapter 31

[3] Attributed to Rogers herself, but she denied coining it.  She credited cartoonist Bob Thaves with popularizing the idea.

[4] Mishnah Pirke Avot 2:6

[5] Horn, Dara.  “Dreams for Living Jews,” Sapir Journal, Winter 2022.  Retrieved from https://sapirjournal.org , September 23, 2022.

[6] cf Judges 21:25

[7] cf Exodus 4:24-26

[8] Ruth 1:16

[9] Esther 4:14

[10] First said to an audience in Montgomery, Alabama in 1957, and repeated with occasional modifications in wording several times in his life.

Believe- Erev Rosh Hashanah 5783

 Believe

Erev Rosh Hashanah 5783

Rabbi Alan Cook

September 25, 2022

 

         I was a latecomer to the phenomenon that is Ted Lasso.  For those of you who are also unfamiliar with the show—and I do recommend it, and will try to keep my remarks spoiler-free—this is a streaming television series on the Apple TV Plus service starring comedian Jason Sudeikis.  It’s the story of a college football coach from Kansas who moves to the UK to become the coach of a Premier League soccer team.

 

         Now, this will shock many of you, I’m sure, but I’m not much of an expert on football or soccer.  But the show is about much more than athletic competitions.  It’s a fish out of water story, certainly, about Ted Lasso’s difficulty in making his aw, shucks homespun demeanor fit in a British context.  More than that, it’s about relationships, and building connections in unexpected ways.  It is, in my opinion, a masterful piece of storytelling, and many of the themes that have emerged in the two seasons we’ve had thus far of the show are themes that are pertinent to the enterprise that unfolds before us at this season in the Jewish calendar, when we stand on the precipice of a new year and strive to prepare ourselves for the challenges and opportunities that lay before us.  I’m going to talk about some of the pivotal life lessons that one can take away from this series.  As I said, I’ll do my best to avoid offering any major spoilers to key plot points.

 

         From the beginning of the series, AFC Richmond, the team led by Coach Lasso, are the underdogs.  They have difficulty playing cohesively as a team, and therefore they are losing games.  The press, the fans, team management, and the players all pepper Coach Lasso with advice, insults, and complaints.  But Ted insists that it is not about the number of points scored or the win-loss ratio that the team may amass over the course of the season.  His philosophy is summed up in a one-word catchphrase: “Believe.”

 

         Ted Lasso is so disarming in his demeanor that he begins to persuade you that believing is possible.  In his case, this is not only limited to believing in the athletic endeavors of AFC Richmond, nor in the complex webs of relationships followed in the fictional universe constructed within the television series.  Ted Lasso encourages viewers to believe even when the episode has ended and you’ve switched off your television.

 

         “Believe” becomes a mantra for the team, and Ted creates a sign to hang in the locker room.  But he doesn’t use money from one of the team’s corporate sponsors to purchase a professionally lettered sign executed by a graphic designer.  He takes a piece of paper, hand-paints the word, and posts it crookedly above the door to his office.  An implicit message from this visual is that believing is not always neat and orderly and conforming to everyone else’s expectations.  

 

         There’s a fine line—more than just a spelling distinction—between “believe” and “belief.”  By urging those connected to the team to “believe,” Ted is asking them to take an active role, getting up and out and about to do the necessary work to manifest the world as they would like to see it.

 

         If “Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul,”[1] then the act of believing, hope’s not-too-distant cousin, is even more ephemeral and prone to fly away from us at a moment’s notice when it is shaken.  But when we manage to believe in ourselves—what we might call “self confidence;” believe in others with whom we maintain some relationship—what we might call trust; and believe in a power greater than ourselves—what we might call faith, then we find the wisdom and strength to forge our path in this world.

 

         Achieving self-confidence—believing in oneself and one’s ability to make an impact, can be challenging or even frightening.  We may doubt whether we have the necessary skills or stamina to accomplish anything meaningful.  We may feel too deeply rooted in old habits to move beyond them and grow in meaningful ways.  In this season of introspection, we may engage in self analysis but imagine ourselves powerless to act upon the data that we glean.  But internet author John Brown Spiers urges, “Believe in your own capacity to believe. Not to change. Not to improve. Those things can come later. Mere belief, frustrating and impossible, has to come first. You can’t do anything until you just Believe.”[2]  

 

         When undergoing this self analysis—what Judaism calls cheshbon hanefesh, which literally translates to “an accounting of the soul” – it’s all too easy to become hypercritical.  We may dwell obsessively on an interaction that we wish had gone differently, a decision that hindsight tells us was incorrect, or words spoken in sharpness or haste that we wish we could reclaim.  We may get so caught up in this self-criticism of a minor incident that we regret that we internalize it as an innate flaw in our character.  But here again Ted Lasso is instructive.  In one episode, he urges one of the team’s key players not to get bogged down in minutiae.  He claims that the happiest animal on earth is the goldfish, because its memory only lasts for ten seconds.  While marine biologists may tell us that this is not scientifically accurate, Ted’s point is that we should strive not to let past disappointments define us, but rather we should believe in ourselves and in the promise of what tomorrow may bring us.

 

         Once we’ve managed to shore up our self-confidence and believe in ourselves, the challenge is then to believe in the possibility of interactions with others.  Over the past few years, as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic, many of us have adjusted the degree to which we relate to those outside our immediate circle.  We may feel disconnected from those who once played an integral role in our lives.  We may have felt let down by institutions we once held in high regard.

 

         By the way, when I first wrote that last sentence about institutions, I was thinking of large companies and government organizations.  But it’s possible that the disappointment hits closer to home.  If you’ve felt at all let down by me or by this congregation in the past year, I ask that you please reach out to me after the high holidays, because I honestly hope to do my best to repair your trust in me and in this sacred community. 

 

         Beyond believing in the broader relationships that we may form with organizations with which we choose to affiliate, we put ourselves on the line by choosing to believe in the possibility of interpersonal relationships.  We extend our hands and hearts to others because we believe that it is worth the effort—and, yes, sadly, the occasional heartache—to engage with others.

 

         My friend and mentor, Rabbi Raymond Zwerin, notes that as one ages, this sort of believing takes on a different resonance.  “When you believe as a senior,” he offers, “You don't hesitate to call the one with whom you haven't spoken in years.  You ask, invite, [and] request.  You challenge yourself to have faith in tomorrow even though acquaintance after friend after relative passes on.  ‘Believe’ [in this context] means getting over the aches and discomforts and forcing oneself to keep moving. Believe means saying hello to strangers and welcoming new discussions […] Believe means getting dressed in the morning; for some that is believing that the day will be for living.”[3]  To expand on Rabbi Zwerin’s thoughts, whatever stage of life one finds oneself in, there is blessing in believing that there is another—or perhaps several others—who can enrich and enhance your life.

 

         One of Ted Lasso’s mid-American mannerisms is to tell everyone around him, “I appreciate you.”  It can be a disarming mechanism; there are times on the show when Ted speaks it to someone who is annoyed with him, and the simple phrase helps to defuse a good amount of the tension.  I suspect that’s because each of us, at our core, wants to be appreciated.  We want to know that we make a difference in this universe—that there is someone who cares about our ideas and ideals and passions and pains.  

 

That level of trust is often difficult, particularly if we have been disappointed by those with whom we have shared such trust.  But Judaism recognizes the significance of being in relationship with one another.  The concept of a minyan, for instance, is rooted in part in the idea that worship in community can be more fulfilling than praying in isolation.  The Mishnah teaches that even “when [only] two people sit together, and words of Torah pass between them, the Divine Presence is in their midst.”[4]  Ecclesiastes teaches “tovim hashnayim me-echad, two are better than one,”[5] which is often seen to extol romantic relationships but can be further understood to be praising the interconnectedness of human beings.  With all due respect to Jean-Paul Sartre,[6] Judaism views other people as a blessing, not a burden.

 

When we trust others enough to allow them to give us their love and appreciation, and, in turn, when we express our love and appreciation to them, we affirm that we believe in the power of human interconnectedness.

 

         I’ve spoken to enough of you over the past several years, months, and weeks to know that “believing” is tough for many of us right now.  In a 2021 Pew study, 29% of Americans surveyed answered “none” when asked about their religious affiliation, as compared to 16% who had identified within that category in 2007.[7]  Oftentimes religious believing in particular—the way in which one believes in God or a power outside of one’s self—is disorganized, held together tenuously and precariously in much the same manner that Ted Lasso’s sign is perched haphazardly on the locker room wall.  

 

         But each of us is here this evening because we’ve put some stock in the power and gravity of believing, whether we believe in the importance of continuity of familial traditions, or whether we place stock in the notion that God expects us to be occupying these seats and engaging with the liturgy of these High Holy Days.  And that we continue to act in this manner each year in accordance with how we believe testifies to our perseverance as individuals and as a people.  Even as others mock or discredit our how and what we believe, we refuse to bend.

 

         Believing and faith are not tools of magic; not all of the prayers that we utter during this High Holiday season will be answered in precisely the manner that we might hope.  But in faith, in clinging steadfastly to what we believe, we may find the necessary inspiration that points us toward an answer, that drives us toward activism or action that can make a positive change.  

 

         Not all of us resonate with the same conception of Who or What God is.  The Chasidic master Rabbi Levi Yitzchak of Berdichev is said to have told an ardent non-believer, “I don’t believe in the God that you don’t believe in.”  Perhaps when believing in God feels difficult, it is because we need to shift our paradigm of what we expect God to be doing for us and how we expect God to be intervening in our world.  I’ll be coming back to this concept in other thoughts that I plan to share with you throughout these High Holidays, but for now suffice it to say that my personal theology rests on the conviction that God is just as perplexed and dismayed as we are by humans showing animosity toward one another, treating the environment with disdain, standing idly while our neighbors bleed, and other harmful acts we perpetrate against one another.  To me, affirming faith in God means affirming that we have the opportunity and the responsibility to work in partnership with God to improve the situation here on earth, to work for the good and welfare of all of God’s creations.

 

         I’ve mentioned to some of you over the years that one of the first homiletical lessons that we were given during our rabbinical training at Hebrew Union College was “don’t preach against the text.”  By this, our teachers meant that we should not directly contradict the teachings of the Torah, but rather look for messages in the Torah that would support our point.  Well, if tonight my text is Ted Lasso, I’m going to temporarily disregard the guidance of my professors and contradict its message in one way.

 

         The opening theme of Ted Lasso builds on a chorus that proclaims, “Yeah, this might be all that you get/ Yeah, I guess this might well be it.”[8]  The lyrics are fitting for what we initially know about Ted Lasso’s character.  But it’s a somewhat defeatist philosophy by which to live one’s life.  In the arc of the show thus far—we’ve been promised at least one more season—Ted has pushed back against the attitude suggested by the theme.  He’s shown that, through perseverance, we can indeed become more than what others thought we were capable of.  A bright New Year is ahead of us.  May we find self-confidence.  May we learn to trust others.  May we have faith in our relationship with the One Who drives the universe.  May we learn to Believe.

 



[1] Dickinson, Emily, “Hope Is the Thing With Feathers” (314)

[2] John Brown Spiers, “Ted Lasso Makes Us Believe, Even When We Don’t Want To.”  Published on The Gist July 29, 2021.  Retrieved from  https://gist.plex.tv/ted-lasso-makes-us-believe-even-when-we-dont-want-to/ , July 28, 2022.

[3] Personal correspondence with Rabbi Raymond Zwerin, September 22, 2022.

[4] Mishnah Avot 3:3

[5] Ecclesiastes 4:9.  In context, the quote refers to 

[6] Sartre infamously wrote “Hell is other people” in his 1944 work No Exit

[7] Smith, Gregory A.  “About Three-in-Ten U.S. Adults are Now Religiously Unaffiliated,” retrieved from https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2021/12/14/about-three-in-ten-u-s-adults-are-now-religiously-unaffiliated/ July 7, 2022

[8] Mumford, Marcus and Tom Howe, “Ted Lasso Theme,” Warner Olive Music, LLC, 2020